Have you ever watched the movie White Chicks, it’s hilarious, but that’s beside the point. Anyway there’s a scene in it where one of the “white chicks” is about to be in a cat fight, and one of the first things she (used loosely) does to prepare is get the other white chick to hold her earrings.
Sounds silly but that earring scene always stuck with me, if I were ever to get in a fight I’d know that it’s a sensible thing to remove my earrings in preparation before it begins. (No one wants a ripped ear) Since then I’ve always associated removing earrings as a symbol of someone getting ready for a fight.
See I think we all too often forget that as Christians we are in a fight. We are daily in a battle with the devil. Yes God has already won and we have the victory in Jesus but that doesn’t mean we aren’t fighting a daily struggle against the devils attacks. Ephesians 6:11 tells us to put on our full armour of God so we can stand against the devils schemes so we know we’re in battle. He’s angry, he wants to take as many people away from the kingdom of heaven as possible, so yes we are in a battle. We asked for this battle I don’t know about you but as a Christian I have definitely prayed Isaiah 6:8 over my life: “here I am lord, send me!”
So I don’t know what we expected from the devil when we prayed that, but he fights dirty. He is sly and smart and calculated and mostly he hurts. He knows where our weak spots are, he knows the past wounds to reopen, he knows our fears and our insecurities. For me that means he knows I seek people’s approval and to be liked by all. So he manifests lies in my head of what I need to achieve to gain peoples approval:
• must always be happy.
• must be intelligent and well educated.
• must always be surrounded by laughter and jokes.
• never fail.
• fit and healthy.
• practically perfect in every way.
None of these are true certainly not true of those who love me. They just want me to be happy for me, not because it’ll increase their love for me. Yet the devil whispers these lies of this is how I can gain the approval I seek. Then he’ll condemn me (remember God convicts the devil condemns) for not seeking God’s approval over man’s. That’s another spiral of lies and rituals I need to carry out to gain Gods approval.
• read bible daily.
• pray for like an hour a day.
• serve in everything possible in the church.
• honour God with my work so therefore I can’t fail or I’ll fail him.
• be so busy for God I forget to look after myself.
Don’t get me wrong these things aren’t necessarily bad things to do bar the whole failing God thing which is impossible or not looking after myself, after all my body is a temple of the Holy Spirit ( 1 Corinthians 6:19). However these things become wrong when I think I need to achieve them to gain Gods approval.
Gods approval or acceptance is a gift, freely given.
By trying to achieve it I almost disrespect him.
Let’s go back to the “hold my earrings” I said this has always resembled preparation for a fight to me. So here’s my question – “what are you doing to prepare yourself for your fight?”
Ephesians 6 is one of my favourite chapters in the bible for this reason. It prepares my heart for battle. See step one of “hold my earrings” in Gods army is recognising there’s an enemy -Ephesians 6:12 (hopefully I’ve helped you do that). Step two is knowning what your hinderances are (your earrings). I recognise mine, it’s my desire for approval. So how do I remove it? It’s not easy it’s a process, a long process. I need to ask for Gods help to convict me to seek his approval, I need to find friends that’ll hold me accountable, I need to declare God’s adoptionship over my life and be ready to face rejection. Giving my hurt of rejection to God and letting go is hard but so worthwhile, it’s fully accepting the peace christ offers me. Step three is putting on our armour like in Ephesians 6 or the fruit of the spirit in Galatians 5. Finally step 4 is finding your army. I said earlier about accountability and this is why church is so important it’s the army of God rising up to support one another and carry out Gods work on earth.
So obviously no fight is as easy as removing your earrings but when victory is assured it makes me grateful to know which army I’m a part of.